On the eve of me starting this blog I was bombarded with the marital problems of two girlfriends and my sister. One marriage is now basically over and the other two are so close to cracking that I have a feeling it's only a matter of time.
Listening to their problems made me realize that no one is safe. Relationships that I thought were meant to last I see falling apart right in front of my eyes. This just goes to show no one is safe but for me the saddest part is the fear in their eyes not so much of the relationship being over but more of a fear of being single. It shocks me to see them staying in relationships only because they don't want to be alone. Perhaps I'm used to it, I don't know but all I can do is tell them in all honesty that I've been in their shoes.
When my marriage ended I had no money in my account, my credit was shot, I was living in a city that I had moved to just months before and because in those months I had been fighting to save my marriage I knew no one but my in-laws. To put it mildly I was terrified not only of being alone but I had no idea how I was going to survive on my own but I did and not only that I learned to be happy.
When I see that fear in a persons eye's I have to tell them they'll be OK. The only reason a person won't survive being single is because they refuse to try. I've never been able to understand how people can take on so many challenges in their lives without fear but when faced with being single they lose all their courage.
This is a question I think we all ask ourselves. Why are we so scared to be single?
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